You have two choices when you are struggling through an important life decision.
ONE – You think through all the variables and run the decision through to the end to identify the possible long term effect, or;
TWO – You do what is easiest in the moment regardless of how it affects you long term.
Sadly, in this day and age most people choose number two. Why? For 3 basic reasons:
You can get the decision off your plate and move on NOW.
It does not require your mind to have to work.
It does not require you to have to deal with your emotions.
The long term affects of that type of decision making creates a habit of not processing information and instead being led by your feelings in the moment. Over time you create a pattern of “bad” decisions leading you to not trust yourself. This creates a paralyzing affect when it comes to making decisions leading you to either do what is easiest AGAIN, or letting others make the decision for you. This is a vicious cycle that keeps you from owning your life and the decisions that are best for you.
I have no doubt that just like me you have hundreds of decisions to make daily. We cannot run away from decision making but we can get really good at making them if we choose to. Take my client Sue (name change) who was trying to decide if she wanted to go back to school for a new career or start a business. When she came to see me she had her mind set on going to school. Why? Because in the moment it seemed the easiest. Without going into too much detail we did the following:
1. We went to the end of each choice and worked our way backwards to the journey it would take to make each one a reality.
2. Then we did a financial projection of each. Incoming and outgoing costs short term and long term.
3. Finally, we did a fear setting sheet for both options.
With all the information above and multiple conversations my client was able to choose the best decision for herself. Sue’s choice was based on a combo of research, digging into what she was willing to invest for her future financially, emotionally and mentally, and the willingness to set aside her emotions to get a 30,000 foot view of the journey ahead of her. The end result is when the going gets tough, and it will, she trusts herself to know that she is doing what is right not just for the moment but for the future as well. It is powerful when you trust yourself because you took the time to vet out the details of your decisions.
Furthermore, over time, you learn the skill of decision making. Quality decision making is a skill that everyone can learn if you choose to take the time.
“DON’T MAKE A PERMANENT DECISION
FOR YOUR TEMPORARY EMOTION.”